Saturday, August 18, 2012

Sibling Insanity

I'm familiar with the concept of sibling rivalry.  That makes sense to me.  But this sibling insanity - what I call the constant fighting, bickering, bitchiness aimed at each other ALL. DAY. LONG. - is insane.  Why do they do this?  I have one sibling, a brother, who is 10 years older than me.  We fought (still do) but not like this.  Granted, one good punch and he would've knocked me out but still. We didn't do this so it's foreign to me.  I now understand why a mother I met long ago said Jagermeister was her best friend and started drinking it shortly before dinner every night.  But it's not constant snottiness, which is where I get confused.  Sometimes they're as sweet as can be to each other.  Do you want a glass of milk?  I'll get it for you.  Then about 30 seconds later, bam!  The bitchiness starts again.

Everyone but me had siblings close in age.  Did your parents beat some sense into you?  Did they all become alcoholics?  What's the cure for this???

I'm reminded of a man I ran into in OCNJ when the girls were just a few months old.  He was on the boardwalk and I was pushing the double stroller past him and he said "double trouble!".  I was so offended.  I said no, double blessing.  He started yelling at me.  "I have girls!  I know whereof I speak!"  Mike pretty much had to restrain me from punching him.

Now I'm wondering if he wasn't right.....


  1. Yep. He was right. My son gets along with both girls independently, but the two of them together is not so nice. My brother and I went through a period where we were at each other all the time. We are close in age (11 months-Irish twins!) so that may have something to do with it. Tolerate it the best you can, it gets better with age!

  2. My brother and I are 4 years apart and fought our fair share. My sister was 2 years older, a totally different personality and ignored us both. But, as adults, we are close. My parents did the beat and wine thing....and then would separate us (separate rooms/no talking/no contact) which immediately wanted us to be together again (w/out fighting)...Who can understand childhood logic?

  3. Huh. I don't get it. My tactic has been that once I'm done being mad, I make them face each other, apology sincerely (not the quick "I'm sorry" kind) and state something they like about the other (that one never goes over well). It can't be something like "she is having a good hair day". It has to be something about the other. Then they hug (sometimes must be done forcefully). They didn't tell me about this in the lamaze classes.