Friday, June 21, 2013

The Hidden Crazies

I tease my friend, M, for attracting all the crazies. Crazy finds me is her motto - and it fits.  I love her and all her crazy-isms and the crazy it attracts.  I never thought *I* was one of those crazies because, well, I'm kind of boring.  Oops.

My realization today isn't crazy finds me.  It's more like the universe is bringing these very unusual people in my life for a reason.  I like this!

I have a group of awesome friends who supported me and my girls when we needed it most.  Over the years I've realized it's not entirely a one-way street.  We support them, as well.  I don't think they're as dependent on that group as I tend to be but I like feeling like I mean something to them as well.

My group of crazy is growing and it's growing in a way I hadn't expected.  I made an off-hand remark to someone on facebook basically saying she's got an awesome life.  Well, she does.  But she also has a crazy part (and keeps me laughing!) that I hadn't expected.  Thank you, Universe, for making her part of our family of choice.

I have someone who works for me in another state who seemed qualified and professional and just a little out of whack.  I had no idea how out of whack she is and how much awesome she brings to my world.  All these crazy folks do.

All of these folks are, in my kids' words, "awesome and unique."  And kinda crazy.  Not the kind of crazy that brings fear into my world - far from it.  It's the kind of crazy that makes me smile.  And be incredibly grateful.

So thank you, Universe.  My world is so much more colorful with all these crazy folks.  And we love them all.

Some of our colorful friends.

Wednesday, June 19, 2013


I want to have a super power. I don't need a cape or a special outfit (though fancy shoes and a tattoo would be awesome).  I don't want a visible power.  Just something I can use, when needed. Like the hulk - but I don't want to turn green (hate that color).  I don't want to inflict rage.  I just want to right the wrongs I see.

I used to think I could get Montgomery County out of its budget crisis if they would just let me ticket people who drive like douchebags.  So far, no one has take me up on that idea so here I sit, in a car, unable to right those wrongs.  The aggressive drivers, people who run lights and stop signs and those who for some unknown reason find it difficult to use turn signals will have to be stopped by someone other than me.  That's too bad.  I was looking forward to pulling them over in my minivan.

So what kind of super power do I want?  I want something that will shut people up.  Not all people - just the ones who need to shut up.  You know the mean girls at the middle schools?  Those girls need to shut up.  The boys who torture the girls needlessly?  Yep, they need to shut up.  The adults at work who decide who can and can't have interpreters/reasonable accommodations/whatever folks need to do their jobs.  They need to shut the fuck up.

Maybe something that shoots mouth closing staples out of my fingers.  Or I could shoot people the evil look and that would be sufficient.

Okay, maybe I do need a cape.

Or another super power.  Hmmmm.....I need another idea.  Thoughts?

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Father's Days for Mothers

Father's day for kids without dads is rough.

So are father/daughter dances at school and girl scouts.

So are lots of things.

The interesting part for me is how those feelings don't really go away even when a kid grows up.

I dated someone in high school whose friend asked me one day what I was going to do for my dad for Father's Day (he didn't know my dad had died, much like most of my friends).  I said I didn't even know when Father's Day was.  He made a bunch of nasty little remarks, many of which are engraved in my brain forever.

This year, my ex asked me if I celebrate Father's Day with my mom, who was both parents to me for nearly my whole life.  I remember doing something like a card and making her breakfast when I was young and getting mixed reviews from her.  I think most years I call my mom and say thank you but not much more.  She never seemed to want that.

I live between the worlds of being a single mom and having a family with two active parents.  While I'm no longer with with my kids' dad, he is in the picture regularly.  When I'm with my kids and one (or both!) has a full-on, tween, mega-size tantrum, I'm very aware of how alone I am.  I think of my mom often during those times.  I wasn't an easy kid.  It couldn't have been an easy time for her.

So this year for Father's Day, I will celebrate with my mom. Forty-four years of being both a mom and a dad deserves something special.

I'm trying to think of a word for moms who are also in the dad role.  MADS doesn't seem to work well.  I'm open to suggestions.

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Taking a day off

Generally speaking, I like my life.  I've gotten used to the insanity that has become my normal.  I take care of my kids most of the time and my mom some of the time.  I work a lot and I try to remember that being in a relationship takes work, so I to prioritize that as well.  I love having wonderful friends and try to fit them in the schedule as I can.

It makes for a busy life.

As things at work have changed and the stress levels have gone off the charts, my work hours have increased (while pay has not!).  The end of school has (finally!) arrived, along with all the stress and emotion that brings.  It's just been a time.

During the week (when the girls, mom or bf are with me), the rule is no electronics at the table.  The rest of the time, it's on.  It's on during the weekends.  It's on when I'm out and about.  It's always one.  IT being the computer or the phone or the whatever that keeps me connected to the world.  It's always on.

So today is a no electronics day.  BF and I are going to have a day of fun.  I might take some pictures and post them later but I'm not checking email.  I'm not talking to people.  I'm not doing scheduling or billing or anything else.

I'm taking a day off!